LOVE WITHOUT ATTACHMENTS

Instead of seeking fulfillment in relationships, what if peace and happiness were the nature of our Being?

Peace and happiness are the nature of our Being. We share our Being with everyone and everything. ~ Rupert Spira

You complete me. I need you. You make me happy. Let’s flip those romantic statements. Without you, I’m incomplete. Without you, I’m in need. Without you, I’m lonely and miserable. According to romance, we’re lonely, needy, miserable creatures. What a sad vision of humanity.

Consumerism conditions us to seek happiness in the external world, namely in relationships. Once we encounter a being who provides us with joy, we immediately latch on to this person. Let’s make a vow to never leave each other. It’s a transaction: I’ll love you if you love me. I’ll be what you need me to be if you’ll be what I need you to be. Dicey proposition.

Instead of seeking fulfillment in the outer world, what if peace and happiness were the nature of our Being? I’m depressed. I’m lonely. I’m miserable. How could happiness be the nature of my being?

Remember impermanence? Emotions come and go. Cells die. New cells are born. Opinions change. Roles evolve. What remains? In the words of T.S. Eliot, the still point in the turning world.

I am sad. I am lonely. I am in love. I am happy. I am depressed. I am anxious. Notice a pattern? The states switch, but the ‘I am’ remains. That’s the actor behind the roles. The witness behind the transience. The screen on which all fleeting states are projected. Underneath the layers of mental activity lies a peace that passes all understanding.

When individuals come together from that perspective, they celebrate their shared beauty. No lack, no loneliness, no misery. Love is no longer extracted and extorted from the external world. It’s no longer something that you take. You radiate Love from within.

(end of part 9)

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